Reclaiming Selfishness

These children, following their pleasure, following their intuition, selfishly full of themSelves in the best possible way. They scream and cry when they want the red cup not the purple one, to us it makes no sense, it is just a cup, they should be happy with what they got, we shouldn’t reward “bad behavior”…

True Boundaries

There is a big difference between neglecting children to do as they please because the parent is emotionally and/or physically absent and being a present parent who partners with children as they are allowed to make the choices that feel good to them. Some parents may lean towards a more restrictive way of being with…

Wide Open Love

Hey there my child– There is nothing you can do or not do that will make me love you less. I will not steer your choices or your interests by showing more approval for you when you make a certain choice over another. You do not need to sculpt who you are into a version…

Relationship with Self

Note to self: Be your own lover, be your own best friend. Be your own parent, be your own therapist. Treat yourself as you treat your dearest darling children. See your golden light. Tap into your joy. Encourage your own splendor. Buy yourself the best chocolate. Have your favorite things on hand. Give yourself money…

Joy Stepping Stones

Note to self: Do what excites you, they say, follow your bliss. Follow the fun, follow the Joy, do what delights you– is it as simple as it seems?— to know how to, to remember how to, to give yourself permission to: tune in to Your Joy (big and little, large and small) Remember who…

Manifesto

Hello All– We are a Radical Unschooling family— We Believe: Children are People, who deserve to be given care, respect, guidance, support, and connection. Children’s opinions and feelings are valid and valuable. One of children’s main purposes is to PLAY and be celebrated and supported in their play. Play is one bold way for them…

When the Walls Fall Down

13 years ago, at a Zen monastery in Japan, I found out I was pregnant. Makes a pretty good opening line to a story, doesn’t it? Haha! I had been living and training there for nearly 5 years. It was the day after our monthly osesshin (7 day retreat). My period was late. I was…

The Storm and the Ocean Mother

Come to me with all that you are, child. Show me how you feel with strength and boldness and wildness and clarity. I can hold it all, child. I can hold all of YOU. Show me what you feel and I will remain calm, huge, wide, caring. I will not be offended. I will not…

The Tiger-Roaring Rose Dance

I want to tell you a story about my daughter, Rose. She just turned 12 years old. I remember the day she was born. I remember before she was born, the fierce tiger longing in me to be the best, most loyal, loving, dedicated mama I could be to this creature I had yet to…

When Grey Comes to Visit

Here I am again. I haven’t written for sometime, partly because October was a slumpy month for me.  My mood was slumpy.  Not drastically dark, but veering towards grey. I tried various things to shake it.  Chocolate, red wine, a hamburger (and considering I’ve been mostly vegan for nearly 2 years, this was a dramatic…